When I read Justice Kennedy's reasoning on behalf of the children of gay parents in his opinion striking down section 3 of DOMA in U.S. v. Windsor...
This [federal non-recognition of marriages sanctioned by states] places same-sex couples in an unstable position of being in a second-tier marriage. The differentiation demeans the couple, whose moral and sexual choices the Constitution protects, see Lawrence, 539 U. S. 558, and whose relationship the State has sought to dignify. And it humiliates tens of thousands of children now being raised by same-sex couples. The law in question makes it even more difficult for the children to understand the integrity and closeness of their own family and its concord with other families in their community and in their daily lives......I flashed back to Jeffrey Toobin's profile of Ruth Bader Ginsburg, which thanks to dysfunction on the New Yorker website I have not been able to access, subscription notwithstanding. According to Toobin, Ginsburg is at least a bit ambivalent about Roe v. Wade, which she thinks may have brought too much change too quickly. Held up as a counter-example was the low profile manner in which gay would-be parents won adoption rights -- in relatively non-adversarial family court proceedings. I can't recall whether Ginsburg had a hand in this, or simply admired the steady under-the-radar progress.